It’s a chemistry
experiment, this human business of being. The chemistry experiment of
mixing all the ingredients of life and observing the results moment by
moment has an overall objective. The objective has been the same
throughout recorded time for each and every one of our species.
Really it’s more an
alchemy process than a chemistry process because we’re trying to take
the day-to-day lumps of coal along with all the gems we find in the ups
and downs of life and transform them into gold. No matter what the
culture, no matter what the language, no matter what the race, no matter
what the personality, we homo sapiens aspire to create gold. Our
alchemy process is to turn the day-to-day seemingly valueless
circumstances and situations into the gold of “happiness.”
alchemy requires a magic ingredient and then a mixing and stirring of
very concrete practices. That magic ingredient is what this blog is
ultimately about. Mattering, that sense of making a difference in the
world and knowing how to make a difference each day is the secret sauce,
the magic ingredient. It requires the crucible of faith and the
"muscles" of emotional intelligence that one by one we will take a look
at and illustrate.
those muscles of emotional intelligence that will be the focus
of day-to-day entries in this blog. Each post will relate to one of the
seven "muscles" of emotional intelligence. So I need to give you just a
little more context.
view emotional intelligence more like physical muscle building than
studying to getting a high score on a test. Our physical muscles make up
a complex system that allows us to walk, run, sit, stand, breathe,
lift, bend, and many other actions to navigate our physical world.
There are tools like free-weights, universal gym, exercise bike, balance
ball, to help tone your physical muscles.
you want to play basketball well, you do a lot of drills in your
practice sessions so that when it comes time to play the real game you
can win based on the strength you've built and the muscle memory for
effective dodging, weaving, running, blocking, passing, catching,
real game of day-to-day life takes metaphorical dodging, weaving,
running, blocking, passing, catching, and scoring. So our model of
emotional intelligence identifies the complex muscles that allow us to
persevere, respond authentically, connect with others effectively,
bounce back from setbacks, risk, create, and navigate our psychological
and interactive world in order to experience life more richly. The seven
EQ Muscles™ are: humility, acceptance, resilience, optimism,
connection, creativity, and authenticity.
like the apparatus and tools for building physical muscles, there are
concrete tools for toning, developing, and building the seven emotional
intelligence muscles. Those tools are taught in our books, sessions, and
courses. They're not what this blog is about.
blog is about the daily game and one person's application of the
practice sessions in order to dodge, weave, run, block, pass, catch,
and score. Each "Morning Musing" will connect everyday ordinary
situations and circumstances to those emotional intelligence muscles.
It'll be like watching that basketball game and getting the
play-by-play, color commentary, and analysis. The intent is to
make applying emotional intelligence real and not just some
abstract concept. The intent is to apply emotional intelligence to that
alchemy process of life.
a catch to learning this alchemy of transforming day-to-day life into
the gold of happiness. Unlike other recipes for the perfect dessert or
steps in the foolproof chemistry experiment or steps in self help books,
this alchemy process, in order to work, is not the same for any person
as it is for any other. Each person has to put his or her own alchemy
process together. The following musings contain some illustrations and
examples that might stir your alchemy.
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